Me: Why is it so shameful to live with your parents forever?
Him: It’s socially unacceptable
Me: Other than that?
Him: (Perplexed look to the sky) Nothing really. There’s no real legitimate reason
That was my conversation with a 26 year old white boy at work. On the internet, you can find the answers or at least different perspectives for almost any question you have, even something as odd as, “how to pee while driving” but nothing or not much on “living with your parents forever.”
You can find articles and webpages dedicated to the shame of having to move back in with your parents, when to move out of your parents home and temporarily moving back in with your parents. Perhaps living with your parents forever is equally as shameful as tutorials on “how to be an adult man running around a primary school with his pants down” that even the internet won’t host such an idea.
I guess the situation that needs to occur for an adult to live with their parents forever is not very common. The adult child needs to be or at least probably needs to be not considering a serious intimate relationship for their whole life and his father has to be dead at an early age or out of the picture. As a male, there’s little hope of living with your parents forever if the father is still around. The father is likely to outright ridicule you or will do so passive aggressively. Having your father rule over you forever feels more childish than wearing diapers. You can root it to some kind of alpha male bullshit. The father is always going to want to be the man of the house until he has to give up his reign when he can no longer stand himself up off the toilet. That’s when you get him to sign over the power of attorney and send him to a geezers home.
Socially unacceptable for a male, more or less means that most women won’t accept you, so not living at home with your parents can be summed up to being afraid that no women will want anything to do with you. That’s when you either have to accept your fate or do the equivalent of makeup for a woman which is lie.
This is my house and my parents live with me
My mother has cancer so I have to take care of her
This is just temporary while my mansion is being renovated
Hey, I’ll tell her the truth when I see her real face.
If your father is out of the picture and your mother has no one, it would seem like the right move to take over as the man of the household. The way our society thinks they should live is kind of silly. Most people struggle with money yet everyone tries their hardest to have their own space when it’s not necessary. It’s ridiculous that there are people who live in a house with 3 or 4 empty rooms. The fact that this kind of lifestyle was very attainable at one time shows you how easy life was. This is my office, and this one is our games room, here is the guest room and this is the room for junk. All mine!
The other issue is that you might be causing your parents some inconvenience. I guess some people still want to live life when they are in their 50’s and 60’s without having their kids around. My question is, why even have kids if you want them out so badly? If you kick them out then they’re going to stand over you and laugh when you are old and can’t wipe your own ass.
Society seems to be regressing because of how far a dollar can go these days. If it continues people are going to have to stay close and help each other out. New parents will have to live at home or at least have their parents babysit.
Of course there are other reasons why you wouldn’t want to live with your parents forever but socially unacceptable is the oddest of them all. It’s like you’re in high school life and afraid everyone is going to make fun of you. If your parents did a poor job of raising you then their punishment should be having to take care of you forever.