Hairy Problems

The 23-year-old liquor store clerk who seemed open to my mentoring has been giving me the vibe that he’s done with my life lessons. It appears that he’s in the stage again of wanting to believe what is more comfortable instead of the probable truth. Well, I can’t fault him since that is how a typical young person’s mindset is. Many/most adults are no different.

When you’re young you tend to have the mindset of ‘anything can happen,’ which often translates into aligning your life with the improbable. Currently, he’s of the belief that he doesn’t need anything to get him through life besides gratitude. The influence responsible for his philosophy is that guy who wrote the book, ‘The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari.” Gratitude as a life enhancer works better for people who can afford a Ferrari.

The difference between an adult and a teenager is that an adult should be capable of making decisions much more effectively. Also, as an adult you’re supposed to be able to do something useful that a teenager cannot learn in 5 days. Otherwise you’re just a hairier version of a child. No one wants to be lost at any age but when you’re young enough there’s this belief in your head that ‘something will happen.’ Not just something but something good and you won’t have to endure any sacrifice for it to happen. For lost souls the game plan is often the path of least resistance.

As for a life that resolves around practicing gratitude, having no money and all that other hippie-dippie stuff, my belief is that it works better in theory than in reality. Whatever works right now won’t necessarily work in the future.

Some of you will say, “But he’s only 23.” That’s true but right now that’s all he has going for him. He’s using his youth as a crutch for delaying the transition from being a hairy child. When people don’t want to accept suffering they look for a painless way out to ride the wave. I suppose it’s one better than suffering just to suffer later.

12 comments on “Hairy Problems

  1. Mr. J,
    Some people enjoy suffering for its own sake. Some believe there’s nobility in suffering. I believe life is a process, and that the best work is something you enjoy doing. If you can find a way to make it seem like fun, it doesn’t feel like work.

    Your 23-year-old former mentee has not been knocked around enough to know he doesn’t have all the answers. If he lives long enough, he may learn that he, like Socrates, knows “only one thing” that is, he “knows nothing”.

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  2. Suffering isn’t choosy you know, it doesn’t care how old you are, really…

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  3. Mr J, I usually agree with pretty much everything you discuss in your blog. But not so on this one.
    In my personal experience (I’m accelerating towards 60 btw), something does always happen. Life creates change, so something always happens. And it may be good, bad or otherwise. But if you can accept whatever it is with a sense of gratitude, it will always look prettier.
    Age doesn’t necessarily equate to wisdom. Maybe you could learn something from that youth as well as passing on what you know?

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    • MrJohnson says:

      Gratitude is an underrated tool in society. I see it as a form of meditation. One can practice gratitude with a good life or not-so-good life but I prefer the former if possible.

      Who am I to say how this guy’s life turns out. Maybe he’s on the right path for himself and I’d be doing him a favour by not saying anything. I suppose it’s his refusal to see life in any way other than what makes him feel comfortable is the reason why I feel the need to share my thoughts.

      My strategy in life is to play the odds unless there is a good reason not to; it wasn’t my mantra in the past. The problem with that is you have to be a good odds maker for that to work. Age does not equate to wisdom and youth is wasted on the young.


  4. Lkvy says:

    I wish I were 23. That’s my takeaway.

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    • MrJohnson says:

      I’d give away everything I have plus a kidney to be 23 as long as I get to keep the brain I have now. Screw it, I’ll throw in an eyeball. Push me a little harder and hand over both testicles and a finger.

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