The 23-year-old liquor store clerk who seemed open to my mentoring has been giving me the vibe that he’s done with my life lessons. It appears that he’s in the stage again of wanting to believe what is more comfortable instead of the probable truth. Well, I can’t fault him since that is how a typical young person’s mindset is. Many/most adults are no different.
When you’re young you tend to have the mindset of ‘anything can happen,’ which often translates into aligning your life with the improbable. Currently, he’s of the belief that he doesn’t need anything to get him through life besides gratitude. The influence responsible for his philosophy is that guy who wrote the book, ‘The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari.” Gratitude as a life enhancer works better for people who can afford a Ferrari.
The difference between an adult and a teenager is that an adult should be capable of making decisions much more effectively. Also, as an adult you’re supposed to be able to do something useful that a teenager cannot learn in 5 days. Otherwise you’re just a hairier version of a child. No one wants to be lost at any age but when you’re young enough there’s this belief in your head that ‘something will happen.’ Not just something but something good and you won’t have to endure any sacrifice for it to happen. For lost souls the game plan is often the path of least resistance.
As for a life that resolves around practicing gratitude, having no money and all that other hippie-dippie stuff, my belief is that it works better in theory than in reality. Whatever works right now won’t necessarily work in the future.
Some of you will say, “But he’s only 23.” That’s true but right now that’s all he has going for him. He’s using his youth as a crutch for delaying the transition from being a hairy child. When people don’t want to accept suffering they look for a painless way out to ride the wave. I suppose it’s one better than suffering just to suffer later.