There was a journalist from The Guardian as a guest on a radio show and he was explaining how back in his day there was no such thing as a ‘loser.’ Maybe there was but it didn’t carry the same meaning as it does today. He went on to say how in today’s world, ‘loser’ is quite possibly the worst label you can give to someone.
With the inequality widening between the rich and not rich, and the shrinking of the middle class, staying away from the loser status takes a painful amount of effort. ‘Average’ is no longer as simple as getting some unskilled job and putting in the years until pension eligibility. Now to be average you have to dazzle people with some fancy job title like, “Director of your Mother’s Butthole.”
To feel like a winner you have to be the best in the group that you identify with or be that person that everyone else wants to be. You know, that guy you wish whose beautiful wife would divorce him and take all his money so that you would feel better about your mediocre life. I’m a hater, I know. But it makes for better entertainment, doesn’t it?
The goal in life for most people is not to be a winner but not be a loser. People want to think they are pursuing happiness but happiness in our society is synonymous with not being a loser.
You’ll often hear advice spawned from idealism such as “don’t judge,” “be happy with what you have,” or “you shouldn’t compare yourself to others.” Such advice is for the truly enlightened but not for people. Everyone wants to feel like a winner so they strategically post snippets of their life in the form of photos and one-liners on social media to enter themselves in the unofficial contest of acceptability.
Every city has their affluent and not so affluent parts of town. Growing up on the less affluent side and meeting people from the more affluent side as a young person has shown me what will generally come to be due to your socioeconomic class with all other aspects being equal.
A good looking woman can have the world by the balls or see her life diminish to an existence of handjobs for $5. Often it’s the set of balls she chooses that will dictate her journey to heaven or hell. Unfortunately, when you are a good looking woman every set of balls will try to get with you and they’ll bring out their biggest arsenal of lies with them. It’s a position of big rewards that can come with big consequences. If you’re a 3 out of 10 not many assholes will bother trying to ruin your life to fulfill their desires. Tragedy waiting to happen will just pass you by without a double-take.
Being a good looking woman also allows you choices and the nagging possibility that you can do better than the guy that you have. When the wager doesn’t come to fruition the bitterness ensues along with the bad emotional decisions that come with it. It’s a game of big stakes.
To me a winner is someone who lives their life doing what they truly want. Many people tell themselves that they are but usually their life is just a compromise between what they don’t want, haven’t realized and what they’re too scared to go after. I’m not a winner. I might be a loser. The game isn’t over yet so we’ll have to see.
This post has been brought to you by people on social media trying to rub it in my face that their life is better than mine. That’s clearly their intent! How dare they! I strike back by writing on my blog that no one will read. That will show them. #winner