I’m barely aware that Christmas is just a short time away which gives you an indication of how important Christmas shopping is to me. When cultural norms play a small role on how your mind functions, you are sometimes a little oblivious as to what other people see as abnormal.
After years of people asking, “have you finished your Christmas shopping yet?” I started to realize that if you don’t Christmas shop you are probably considered to be a dysfunctional human being. I suppose one who does not buy Christmas gifts would be thought of as a person who has no family or friends…a lonely sap who nobody likes.
I have nothing against buying Christmas gifts for people but it starts a situation of obligation that can get weird. You buy someone a gift then they feel obligated to get you one and it can only have an awkward ending.
If we’re going to exchange shitty gifts then we’d might as well just buy gifts for ourselves so that there is no disappointment and no one has to pretend that they’re not thinking of re-gifting. Your gift cards are only well-received if there’s no gift expected in return.
There are nice gifts though that can be loved for a lifetime. Receiving something that you can keep forever from people you like and hopefully will always like is a treasure.
I’d rather give gifts on a random day because there’s much more impact when it’s not expected. You give a gift on Christmas and people are like, “thanks” but give one on June 17th and it will be like a sucker punch of kindness. When you get gifts on Christmas it feels like it’s just part of the game. It’s almost as if there needs to be a designated day in order for people to be nice.
So what should I buy myself this year?