When people ask me if I’m happy I always tell them I’m not. I think the definition of happy is different for everyone and mine is not made up just to conveniently satisfy my ego.
What people don’t always believe is that if you say that you are happy it means that is your general mood for most of your present life. People mistake happiness with feeling good about themselves. They tell themselves they are happy when they think about what they have or what they have done in life. It’s almost like there is an official happiness fact sheet and as long as your life somewhat matches up with it then you can say that you are happy regardless of how often you feel misery. I suppose this can be in direct relation to feeling happy for the sole reason of feeling accepted.
If you hate being at your job, I don’t think you can say you are happy. How can one say that they hate at least half of their day and be happy? Combined with all the other parts of your life that you get no fulfillment from, I think it would be safe to say that you are not happy. You might have purpose and parts of your life that do make you happy, but you are not happy. I don’t think a 50/50 split of happiness and misery equals being happy. Although, if you are at a 50/50, you might be better off than most people.
In our society, not being happy is the ultimate failure in life which is why so many people cheat so that it can appear that they pass the test. People blatantly lie about anything to save face so of course they are going to lie about being happy even if they are at 20/80.