If you feel too awkward to go out and have a meal by yourself at a restaurant then you are basically saying you need to have people in your life forever or that you don’t mind not ever eating out again. I think subconsciously people fear being alone in life because it equates to never being able to go out again.
If you can’t enjoy going out by yourself then people will always own you. You will let them get away with treating you poorly because you think you need them in order to live. As long as they can sense that then they will continue to treat you poorly.
I go out by myself a lot and eat at restaurants alone. Once in a while I will bump into someone I know and they will give me a perplexed look and ask me who I’m waiting for. I tell them ‘no one’ and they don’t know what to say. It’s like I just told them I came back from trying on woman’s underwear or something.
What’s the difference between eating alone at home and eating alone at a restaurant? The only difference is that there are people there at a restaurant. If that makes you feel uncomfortable then it means you think they are judging you.
Another weird thing about eating alone is that some people will do it if they think they have a legitimate reason like it’s their lunch break. As long as it’s socially acceptable people won’t feel so ashamed. But if it’s a Saturday and you’re not working then you have no excuse and that alone makes people feel insecure about being out alone.
To be honest, a lot of people will judge you poorly when they see you eating alone, going to the movies alone or anything for that matter. They think this because they assume if you are alone it means that you are incapable of finding someone to be with you. Of course this might be the truth sometimes but other times it just means that you’re not ashamed of being in public places alone.
I used to feel kind of awkward eating out alone but now I feel more awkward for the people sitting close to me. When someone is eating alone at the table next to you, you can’t help but have those moments where you think that person is staring at you. When that time comes, I am thankful that smartphones are available. If I’m looking at my phone at least everyone else will feel more comfortable.