We go through life living by beliefs that make no sense aside from the idea that it is acceptable or worshiped by the people we associate with. People can be predictable like machines. If we know their limitations, we have an idea of what we can demand and get away with.
If your boss tells you to work longer and harder than you think is fair, chances are you are going to do it anyway. Your boss knows there are limits they cannot cross but they also know how far they can probably push it. People treat people like this in every type of situation.
Most of us are regularly associated with some group or at least someone. If you have known each other long enough, you have an idea of how much that person values you and what other options they have besides you. People will also get an idea of what you believe and will use that against you in certain circumstances.
You will often hear people tell you about how they don’t want to do something but they have to because it is for their brother, friends or mother. That is not really a reason but most times that is all that has to be said for people to understand. See, your brother, friend or mother know this too. They predict and expect that you will act a certain way because of your beliefs and your available options.
Often the idea is, if people think that you will not leave whatever it is that you are part of then they will take advantage of that. Sometimes they don’t even care if you leave so they will take advantage of that. Either way, they don’t really care about you. Even if you do leave, their dogmatic beliefs will often have them think that you will eventually come crawling back.
People hope to get away with doing as little as possible when it comes to maintaining any kind of relationship. Tell your boss you are going to quit, and they will offer you more. Tell your boyfriend or girlfriend you are going to leave them, and they will promise they will change. Just like natural resources, you will be more valuable if your scarcity is a true possibility. We shit on drinking water because we think it will always be there. Once it is in short supply it becomes liquid gold.
You do not have to give any part of your life to anyone just because you are connected by some label that holds cultural significance. Sharing DNA or a past isn’t enough reason for anyone to own you. You do not have to be a slave to anyone unless you choose to be.
The best people in life are the ones that can get away with treating you unfairly but do the opposite.