A common cry from young people is, “I don’t know what I’m going to do with my life.” I was one of those. It was torturous. I still am one of those people, sort of. The biggest problem with that question is that it’s not complete. It’s taken to mean that you don’t know what you’re going to do for a career which implies that a career is your life.
The pain and agony with not knowing “what you’re going to do” stems from not knowing what you’re going to do to succeed in satisfying the typical definition of that question. It’s possible that there isn’t really anything out there that will satisfy you completely in terms of a career.
To further expand on “I don’t know what I’m going to do with my life”… it also means you don’t know what you’re going to do for a career that will bring you the money and status that will grant you deep respect from others. Most people who cannot find a happy answer to this question will have to settle for a shitty answer. The shitty answer is a job that brings you just enough money and respect so that you can take your head out of the ground once in a while and not feel ashamed.
The only thing worse than not knowing what you want to do with your life is to continuously try to do something you don’t even want to do. You know you don’t want to do it but you make justifications to make yourself believe you are doing the right thing.
Asking yourself “what am I going to do with my life?” should probably be reworded to, “how do I want to live my life?” It changes the meaning of the question even though it’s really the same question.
Sometimes the most difficult part to finding out “what you want to do” is realizing that you should be mentally walking away from your age old beliefs on how life is supposed to be lived. The further you walk away the closer you come to your truth. The parts of your life that you think are most important are probably the culprits to your unhappiness.