My mother was very close to having an abortion when I was hanging out inside of her. She doesn’t know that I know this because my schizophrenic aunt had let me in on this little secret. I’m pretty skeptical when that aunt tells me anything but back then she wasn’t as crazy and the details of the story made a lot of sense.
It’s obvious that I was a complete accident. My mom was never married and I never met my ‘father’ because he wasn’t really interested in taking on that role. My mother decided against the abortion for similar reasons on how she was put in this position in the first placed. My ‘father’ conned my mother into sleeping with him and then my other aunt(not crazy) conned my mother into having me. My mother is lacking in the intelligence department which tells me my ‘father’ must have been decently intelligent because if he was a dumbass then I would be a super dumbass.
Not ever having met my ‘father’ never bothered me at all. I know not having a father affected my life deeply but it’s not something you realize until you get a bit older and have the possibility to think about it without an ego. I think people who want to meet their unknown parent might get that desire from watching too many TV shows that display such a situation. I can’t see why you would want to meet a stranger who wanted nothing to do with you and quite possibly affected your life negatively.
Knowing that my mother was seriously considering an abortion if my ‘father’ did not show his face at a certain date, never bothered me one bit either. I already knew I was part of an unwanted pregnancy so what difference did it make that I knew she was planning to get an abortion. Perhaps you might be thinking that I’m just a cold person who repressed all his feelings. I don’t know. In my mind, I was just an understanding person who did not attach himself to a less than ideal situation. I just didn’t see the big deal.
There are many out there just like me who were close to being aborted but I think the difference is that no one ever told them. ‘Accidents’ are even more plentiful but the difference between unplanned pregnancies depend on the situation. A married couple that planned to have children but had a child a bit earlier than planned is much different than a 20 year old woman who gets knocked up by some random guy.
Opponents of abortion often say an aborted child did not even have a choice. To that I would say, almost aborted individuals did not ask to be brought into this world in a disadvantage environment. Do I wish I was aborted? I don’t know. How can anyone really say? I can tell you being raised by someone who was not very fit to be a parent has been anything but rainbows. If I was just a little bit crazier and had a little bit less of a conscience, life would be much different for me and the people that I would have affected.
The truth is that young women who decide to have that child are at a disadvantage to being able to raise that child with success. Success meaning that everyone involved does not go through the majority of their life struggling just so that they can exist. Chances are everyone is going to lose. The women who do consider abortion are likely poor, young, no education, not in love with the sperm donor, and having a child will not likely improve her situation. The unlucky child gets to grow up in this less than ideal situation to maybe do just a little better. Wouldn’t it be better for everyone including society to let that woman improve her life and get her shit together and then have a child?
I’m not saying abortion is right or wrong but abortion seems to make some sense at least. The moral arguments are a different story. I’m not a person of high morals nor am I full of bias like many other opponents of abortion. If you are religious, have children, didn’t abort your unplanned pregnancy or were close to being aborted, then your view on abortion might be influenced. You would think I would be anti-abortion but from looking at my life and others who were close to having an abortion but didn’t, I can see that some people probably should of had an abortion.
The abortion debate is much more complex than what I have just outlined but I don’t have 3 months to get into it. This is just a perspective from a person who was knowingly almost aborted but does not identify strongly with almost being aborted. I don’t have any resentment towards being born nor do I have any resentment on not being aborted. I do resent this 9-5 working life bullshit though.
I know I sound a bit contradicting. I guess I’m not against abortion but I also understand why some people would be. I also don’t believe in Jesus Christ but I understand why people do. I think it’s a little weird but I don’t think it’s wrong.