Today I was thinking how a man and a woman sometimes stay together long term not so much out of love but just to make life easier. By easier, I mean paying bills, sharing household duties, etc. For example, if you are one person and have a $300,000 apartment to pay for then it’s all on you. If there are two of you then you can split that payment in half which would make a huge difference. If you were to put your money together then you could buy a $600,000 home and for the most part and be no better or worse financially. It would make something that was impossible now possible.
But what if you are a man and do not want to be in a committed relationship with a woman and have to live with her too? Or what if you are really bad with meeting women? Why is it that a straight guy never partners up with another straight guy in the same manner? We all want to make life easier, don’t we? I suppose it is considered too ‘gay.’ Also, if you were a straight guy and committed to this type of relationship with another straight guy, you are almost admitting that you have given up on women. Maybe not completely but you have definitely lost a lot of hope.
In our culture, there’s something about being older than 40 years of age and being in a heterosexual man and man relationship that is more embarrassing than living with your parents. At least with your parents you can say that they need you around because they are getting old. I think it’s something about coming home and seeing another guy everyday knowing that you both think each other is a loser and you committed a mortgage to it.
It would take some pretty big stones to walk around telling everyone with confidence that you bought an apartment with another guy who is not your lover. You know everyone you tell is going to think it’s weird and you can’t help but think that everyone thinks that you are a closet homosexual. “Ya sure buddy, he’s just your ‘friend’…uh-huh.” Most people would rather live alone in poverty and loneliness.
Being in such a relationship is pretty much saying that you are each others boyfriend except you don’t have sex or cuddle. Buying a home together is indicating that it is going to be a very long term relationship and that is not easy to accept in today’s society. I wonder how many straight guys who would be in a partnership like this would end up falling in love with each other after years of supporting each other? It could so happen.
I just remembered they had an episode of King of Queens about this same topic. I don’t feel so original now. Doesn’t matter, I think this is a subject that needs more awareness. Cancer and all those other diseases have had their time.