I wonder if the natural evolution of humankind is to be alone. Since the hunter gatherer times, one of the major goals has always been to enhance our safety and security. In these primitive eras, it wasn’t possible to feel safe and secure without being in a large tribe of other humans. It seems that it is built into us to not want to be alone for reasons of safety, security and even happiness. In order to perpetuate the species you couldn’t do it alone either.
So it must not be nature’s intention for us to be alone? I strongly believed this until recently. When I say recently, I mean yesterday. We’re more alone and disconnected than in any other time because of our progression towards ultimate safety, security and technology. We no longer need anyone in our regular lives to survive. In hunter gatherer times I don’t think anyone had any grandiose ideas of venturing off by themselves thinking that they would be better off. Any tiger with a broken leg can kill a lone human.
It does suck to be alone sometimes but I’m pretty sure the majority of people have had moments when they have entertained the thought of separating themselves from the regular people in their lives. A moment when they thought cutting off all ties to people in their regular lives would be the better path. No one would seriously entertain any thought if they didn’t think it was possible. You wouldn’t get off an elevator and jump out the window to get to the ground floor because you know there’s no possibility of it being a better option.
Being able to comfortably survive on your own is fairly new and also not available worldwide. It’s a work in progress and our era is like the beta version with bugs. From an evolutionary standpoint, I think the end goal is to be even more alone than we already are but also happier. We’ve further advanced our physical aloneness with the internet. We no longer need people around us at all times to feel safe and now we don’t need people for many other things because of the internet. You can have a conversation online, buy stuff online, learn stuff online, run an online business.
You can connect with people without being around people. We say all this disconnection is unhealthy and detrimental to society but this is what humans really wanted. We’ve been working towards this since the beginning of time. We went from tribes to families to being more alone. If we thought being in a huge tribe was better then that’s what we would be doing. Sure, you could have probably survived alone during the Mongol Empire but it definitely wasn’t as safe. You still had to worry about other humans killing you or making you their slave
To think that the technology we have now is as good as it gets is being naive. It’s going to keep on advancing to a stage that most of us cannot even imagine. No one imagined 25 years ago that we would have what we have now. To show you how handicapped our ability to predict the future is, even when CD’s and Laser Discs were available, no one ever said there would one day be something the size of a CD that could play movies at Laser Disc quality. Maybe one day I will be able to hang out with you without leaving my home and when I get sick of you, I’ll just close my eyes and wish myself out of there.
Perhaps being alone is an evolutionary process that happens when a society reaches a point of safety, security, technological advancement and a sufficient population. The birth rate in developed nations has declined. You can attribute this to birth control, women wanting careers, abortion or whatever but the end goal is to have less people around you. Also, having the option to sit at home watching TV, playing video games, using the internet, will affect the chances of people going out and reproducing.
When there is something that affects a group of humans, there automatically will be a desire to fix it. That’s what we do. It doesn’t even really have to be a problem, it just has to be something we want to make better. People don’t like to be around certain people all the time or even some of the time but they feel that they have to and people don’t always like to feel alone either so I think it’s possible that one day technology and culture will provide an alternative.