You always hear people saying, “who cares what people think.” Everyone gives the impression that they live life entirely according to their own individual desires yet they coincidentally live the same life with the same ideas. When I say “everyone” I am generalizing but you know what I mean.
I’ve found the only way to really not give a shit about what anyone thinks is to have less people in your life. Why can’t you not give a shit and still have tons of people in your life? Maybe one can. I don’t know. I guess that would make the title of this blog incorrect. Perhaps instead it should be, “A theory on how to not care about what people think.” Or I could just change the title and delete this paragraph.
I think the more tribes or close relationships you are connected with, the more difficult it is to really live life as you truly please. In theory it would seem you could just not give a shit but I think that goes against our primordial instincts. With less people in your life there’s less judgement, less ideas battling each other, less negativity, less voices of criticism. If your choices in life are not on the same path as the others around you then you are most likely going to get negative criticism. The further away your ideas are from others the deeper the criticism. People don’t care about what you want. They only care about what makes them feel better about themselves.
Almost sounds like I’m telling you to ditch all the people in your life in order to have a chance to do what you truly want. Definitely not saying that. I’m just saying if your life ever became almost void of regular communication with the people you consider yourself attached to, you would see many new angles about life and yourself. For myself I’ve just accidentally found that with less people in my life the more free I am able to be. Sounds like a total nutty theory, I know. Cause aren’t people one of the key ingredients to a good life? Probably but most people are shitty and chances are there’s shitty people in your life and you may not realize it cause as long as you’re connected with them then you’re probably influenced by them and connecting on the same shitty level. It’s really difficult in our society to push away people who hold these titles like family or long time friend. It’s like the mafia or something and once these people hold one of these prestigious titles it’s like they are ‘made.’
Our survival instincts tell us that more people the better. This most likely was the case when we were hunter gatherers. In those times you definitely wanted to be with the largest and strongest group. Being alone would mean death pretty quickly. I’m starting to think though that is the only reason why people tend to want to gravitate to large groups.. for survival purposes. But if you absolutely know that you don’t need a tribe or anyone to survive, is it possible being alone might be the happier card to play? Not being committed to anyone or any group? Cause as humans we get sick of people if we see them day in and day out. We get sick of everything and anyone unless if it’s constantly giving us joy or ensuring our survival. We’re always breaking up with people, cutting ties with friends, acquaintances and reliving the process over and over again. People tend to only tolerate other people when they need them for something to enhance or ensure their survival but once they aren’t doing it for them anymore then the communication slowly erodes to nothing. Seems unnatural to even think being alone could be better than belonging to someone, some group or groups but we live in a very unnatural world.
I always to do this. I start writing a post when it’s near my bedtime and am not fully sure if I even think I made sense but will press the ‘publish’ button anyway cause well, it doesn’t really matter.