How do most people come up with an answer when they are asked this? I have a few theories.
A common one is to never show weakness and always say “yes.” Doesn’t matter if their husband left them for a younger woman or if their wife left them for a big black man last week, they will always say, “yes.”
Probably the most common one is trying to figure out their happiness on paper and then root on the side of happy. It’s like paper happiness. You would think of things in your life you like vs the things in your life you don’t like so much and if there is more wins in the happy column then you’re happy. If the happy column is losing and it’s the 4th quarter you just have to trick yourself and add some ringers to that team. You always hear people say something like, “ummm ya, overall I’m happy.” Isn’t it you’re happy or you’re not? I don’t know, I guess you can be so so happy and so so not so happy. I think in this kind of situation there’s probably a big aspect of their life they don’t like but they have something that keeps them going like kids or retirement. Or beer.
To show you I’m not completely cynical, negative or too real I do think there’s a good number of people who are genuinely pretty happy. They will tell you they’re happy cause that’s just how they usually feel. I can’t say I’m that way. I generally have a “whatever’ feeling or when I’m feeling positive I’ll say, “I can’t complain.” I’m too honest. That’s why it’s so hard for me to get a date.
I think to be one of those genuinely happy people you really have to be living life the way you want. You have to have supportive and accepting people around you. Staying healthy by sleeping, eating and exercise always helps too especially when you get older. You definitely can’t be concerned with keeping up with the Joneses. Being able to let go is a big one too. Not just with past situations but with thoughts and ideas that hold you down. Being selfish don’t help at all either. Being able to give just to make someone else happy and to not even expect appreciation shows there’s at least some happiness in you for sure.
So am I happy? I definitely can’t define myself as happy. I don’t feel it. I’m very happy about some things but happiness is not usually my state of mind. Although, I’m going through something right now that is somewhat depressing me but I don’t feel like talking about it here. I do remember though just a while back when I had not much and nothing plaguing my mind, I was pretty happy. I had next to no social life and stayed home a lot but I was feeling very positive. Looking towards a more spiritual path did wonders for me. I guess I’m not immune to the bruises from the bumps on the road of life. I guess like everything else though it will pass. Like gas.