We live in a society of so much fluff, kind words and unfulfilled semi promises. No one says what they mean or means what they say. Expectations that are given are never realized.
It’s always so easy to say that you care, that you will call someone or better yet tell them to call you that way you don’t have to do anything but when it comes down to it the actions hardly ever match the words.
Everyone always likes to say that they care just because it seems so nasty to say that you don’t. You say you care about this person you call your friend but ask yourself in what way do you really care. Just because you wouldn’t want to see them get hurt or die doesn’t mean you really care. I don’t want to hear about anyone in this whole entire world to get hurt but it doesn’t put them in my actual caring category.
Often the case is that people only care about their own guilty conscience. They care when this has to be cleared. If they don’t know you’re in need then it’s all good but if you call them and ask them for help then they have to care.
Seriously, if you haven’t talked to a person you consider a good friend for several months and they live in the same district as you then you’re not really caring and you have to question the validity of your good friendship. What would you call your friendship if you spoke even less than that? It be pretty much nothing so what makes you good friends?
All the other people you care about in your life, how often do you talk to them? Your mom, sister, wife, dog. I bet you don’t go that many weeks without speaking to them. I guess in this society, depending on the label of the relationship, certain ones carry some higher obligation and some less. We’re always infatuated with labels.
People will think you have a f’d up relationship if you only spoke to your wife every other week but if you only spoke to one of your good friends every other year you would probably get a pass. You know, life’s been too busy and all. Or you just don’t really care.
Shit man, in half a year someone can get depressed and kill themselves. You could have a friend like this. I suppose you can say, “you didn’t know” but what’s the likelihood anyone in that situation will just call you and tell you. I guess calling just to see how someone is doing is just too much.
If you really care about someone shouldn’t you make it a habit to call them. No one is that busy to call anyone they care about. If you are then you’re just too busy to care. Follow through with your words and promises because someone might be counting on you. Broken promises can pave the way to a lifelong path of negativity. Spread the positivity and the compassion instead and hopefully we can infect the whole world one day.